Right now I want you to hold both hands out in front of you, palms open and facing up, let your eyes go heavy, almost closed, take a deep breath through your mouth, let it out through your nose….do that again, clear your mind of any anxiety, stress or fear you have about providing a meal for another human being. Need another breath or two? Go ahead take another breath, it’s ok. Seriously, you can do this.
You may think that I’m Miss Social Sally. That I can talk to anyone. That I’m bold, and courageous about approaching people. I bring meals to people all the time, it’s easy for me. WRONG. The truth is I’m a total stress-ball about asking someone if I can bring them a meal. Thank the good Lord for email, texting, and Facebook because if I had to actually call people on the phone and really speak to them, I would be a mess. Out of control sweaty mess. (FYI: for those of you that don’t know me very well yet, know this, I’m a sweater. Full on squirt out the armpits sweater, drip down the back of the neck and between the bosoms kinda sweater. I know TMI.) Well, I can honestly say I probably wouldn’t be sharing as many meals as I do. I know, right?! I’m pathetic! It’s true.
For many years I would make a meal and then ask Kenny to deliver it for me. He’s good with people. He know’s what to say. He’s great at small talk. Being a physician I almost got the feeling people rather have him bring them their meal anyway. But over the years Kenny has gotten busier with his work and I can’t always depend on him to make my deliveries so I have to do it myself. However, I often hog tie one or two of my kiddos and make them go with me.
What are your fears about sharing a meal?
~Do you fear that they will not like the meal you have prepared them? No one will eat it, and it will go to waste.
~Are you afraid you might offend them by asking if you can bring them a meal?
~Are you afraid they will find one of Fido’s hairs in their soup, or worse yet one of yours? Yikes! (This used to be be a rather large fear of mine. One word. Hairnet. My golden retriever wears a giant hairnet! JK)
~Does it scare you to think someone might say no?
~Are you afraid of giving up some of your precious time?
I have one comment to make….get over yourself. This isn’t about you. I speak from experience….these are some of my fears too. So what if they don’t like your food, you did your best. Maybe what meant more to them than the meal was that you cared enough to share it, or that while you were there you ask “is there anything else I can do for you, how can I pray for you?” Bringing someone a meal sometimes opens doors to new meaningful friendships.
I do have ONE rule: When bringing someone a meal DO NOT make apologies for the meal you prepared. ”This didn’t quite turn out right, or I over cooked the noodles, etc. etc.” Chances are they will never be able to tell….so don’t bring it to their attention. Especially, if you don’t know them well, they have no reference point to know what the meal could have been.
Would you be offended if someone offered to bring you a meal? Most likely not. Unless of course they said, “Hey your kid told me you were a sucky cook, I thought I’d help your family out and make you one of my gourmet meals.” Well now that might offend someone, but I can’t think of any other reason someone would be offended. Don’t be afraid of offending. It’s a silly fear…….but I can relate, remember I have had all these fears too.
The time factor is scary, so little time, so much to do UGH! I will talk more about this one later in the 31 days.
So what if you offer to bring someone a meal and they say no. I have had people say no before. No, is hard to hear. Once again I say, get over yourself. Move on. Don’t get your feelings all hurt. Don’t take it personally.
Last but not least the hair fear. This may be something you never considered or feared, but now that I have brought it up you are totally freaked out! OH MY GOSH have I brought someone a meal and they found my hair in it???? HELP me Rhonda!!! Calgon take me away! I know…I know…I’m sorry I had to bring it up. But it used to be a real fear of mine, so much so I actually, are you seated? I actually would say, “I hope you don’t find a hair in your dinner.” when I delivered their meal. CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT??? You can go now, if you have heard enough of what a pathetic, messed up spazball I am, I will not hold it against you. I am just being honest. I am not sure when I got over this fear. I have done alot of work on myself on not stressing over the little things in life. And hair my friend is seriously a little thing in life.
Oh Gee I got a little wordy today. If you are one of the many who are not comfortable with bringing someone a meal, I hope this helped you to realize your fears will hold you back from blessing someone more than you could ever imagine!
Take a giant leap out of your comfort zone and share a meal!
I would love to hear your thoughts…and if you want to talk more feel free to email me!
Deep breath…aahhhh. Have a relaxing Sunday!