the Reluctant Entertainer GIVEAWAY

Would you consider yourself someone who enjoys entertaining in your home? Or would you rather be a guest in someone elses home? Are you envious of people who make entertaining seem easy? Do you make excuses as to why you never have anyone over? Are you putting way too much pressure on yourself?! I have the perfect book for all of you.

Because we are heading into the time of year when parties and entertaining are on the forefront of everyones minds, I thought it would be the perfect time to giveaway a copy of the Reluctant Entertainer by Sandy Coughlin. The Reluctant Entertainer is easy to read, you can open it up to any page and find useful tidbits of information for entertaining and life in general. Sandy has also included delicious easy recipes throughout the book that are tried and true! She also has a wonderful blog with many tips to help us stay focused and keep us from getting caught up in the things that can distract us from enjoying our guests.

Did I mention that Sandy signed the copy of her beautiful book? Well she did!

Maybe the word “entertaining”, in itself, FREAKS you out. Does it make you feel like you need to put on a big wooHOO party, where everyone is laughing and having the time of their life, a night they will never forget with fabulous food and the house looking gorgeous with nary a speck of dust anywhere. If entertaining makes you feel anxious….this book is here to help.
The Reluctant Entertainer is a book that helps us remember that we need to connect with others, getting together/entertaining is about the people, the conversations, and really taking the time to get to know your guests. Even if that means ordering take out together.
Guess what, your house does not have to be spotless! Guess what else, you don’t need to apologize for a less than spotless house or a less than 5 star meal, because chances are your guest will NEVER notice the small imperfections and if you do apologize you will just be bringing something to their attention that they had not noticed in the first place….you will be putting the focus on yourself and not focusing on enjoying your guests. This book is packed with information and wisdom that will make any “reluctant entertainer” feel at ease and start to be less reluctant when it comes to having people in their homes.
RELAX, let’s quit putting so much pressure on ourselves.
Do you come from a background of entertaining?
I do. If you would call it that. I grew up in a very, dinky home. (That would be small or tiny…some people live in apartments that are bigger than the house I grew up in. We didn’t even have a garage.) My mom had a electric stove and very little counter space. But some of the best meals anyone ever had came out of that kitchen, because she was focused on the people and not what we didn’t have but what we did. I never really thought about it until I was married and had kids and someone asked me where I learned to entertain. I shrugged and said “I dunno, my mom I guess”. But I was thinking to myself….my mom never entertained, what am I sayin’. She did, we just called it “havin’ people over”. “Come on over….sure there’s plenty….”, that was and is my mom’s attitude. She kept it simple. Fried chicken, Bar-B-Q chicken….lots of chicken, nothing fancy, but always made with love. And let me tell you our house was not only dinky it was messy, I love you mom, but one thing my mom is not is a neat freak….but I don’t think anyone ever notices(because my mom doesn’t), they are too busy eating and laughing and enjoying each others company.

Fondue on Christmas Eve with my Seestor.
I realize that I am blessed to have been raised in such a home, and that many of you may not have someone that modeled how to be hospitable. However, I still put undo pressures on myself at times. The Reluctant Entertainer will help you conquer some of those unnecessary pressures you put on yourself and start enjoying having others into your home. I would like to have people over more, but because of Kenny’s schedule our “havin’ peeps over” has been on the down swing lately. So you know what I do then, I let my kids entertain. Sleepovers, play dates, I invite girlfriends over for appetizers. These are all forms of entertaining. You can even bring someone a meal, stay a minute to visit, let them know you care.

Fun baking play dates.
I can’t say enough about this book or Sandy. She is such a sweet lady. The Reluctant Entertainer would also make a super gift. This is a book that even the most seasoned hostesses will find useful. And as always you know I don’t giveaway stuff just to give it away….I give it away because I love my readers and I want to share the things I love with you!
Here is how you can WIN a copy!!! Leave me a comment below:
1. Let me know are you a Reluctant Entertainer? Why?
2. OR do you entertain easily with out stress….and if so WHO taught you that…or does it just come naturally?
ONE COMMENT per person please unless….

you share this GIVEAWAY on your FACEBOOK page or TWEET me, then comment again and give me the link. You have until Tuesday midnight to comment, then I will unreluctantly announce the WINNER on Wednesday! Wahaha ha hoo! I can hardly wait.
Luv Ya!

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  1. 1
    Jenny Sunshine :

    I am a completely stressed out entertainer! The perfectionist in my comes out and I spend tons of time planning and cleaning for any little get together- it's exhausting!

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    Lisa :

    I so love the idea of entertaining in my home – love having family and friends around. I'm scared to death that my cooking will kill someone though – I want it to be perfect – not them leaving gagging or remembering to not come back to a dinner again.

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    Lisa @KarmaPerDiem :

    I stress out entirely before entertaining, but strangely enough, am fine once the party gets started! Maybe it's the cocktails…
    Super nice giveaway; thanks for sharing!

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    Lisa @KarmaPerDiem :

    Tweeted about it, because it's a wonderful giveaway!

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    Carrie - Robin's cousin :

    I love to have people over to our house but I need to learn to let things go so there is less stress on myself. I am a fan of Sandy's blog & am trying to implement her entertaining tips. However, last night I failed when we hosted small group. I didn't get a bathroom mirror & counter wiped down before guests arrived & then I made a comment about it when someone used that bathroom. Sandy says not to apologize or draw attention to things that fail or don't get done.

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    Melanie :

    I love to have people over, but in the past year, I have stressed myself out over it. I need to get over it,clean "good enough" and get some friends over here! This book sounds right up my alley.

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    Megan :

    I am a reluctant entertainer. It's mostly because I'm shy and introverted so I find hosting parties very stressful. I'd like to learn to do it more though, so a book with tips on entertaining would be great!

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    Tamrah T. :

    I enjoy entertaining but the prep-work can make or break me. And, RE has been a great inspiration to keep me better organized so everyone can have a fun time…even if it means nothing is finished 100%.

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    Alicia :

    The thing that keeps me from entertaining the most…my small house! But I don't need to let that hinder me…

    aliciashomemaking (at) gmail (dot) com

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    The Segard Family :

    I'm reluctant just because I never know what to make… once people are over I am fine and love it!!

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    Tracey :

    I am a Reluctant Entertainer–but my only reluctance is in the inviting. We live in a very fast paced area and people rarely want to commit to getting together. Once I step out and invite and friends agree to come the rest is a breeze.

    I would love a copy of Sandy's book, thank you for the giveaway!

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    ckmessing :

    I absolutely love to entertain but I have to say that I am certainly not stress-free when it comes to having people over. I have major anxiety about the house/cleaning and every detail and I would LOVE to let that all go!! You are so right about mom – how'd I get so freaky about it? I need to revisit my youth apparently! 🙂

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    Vickie :

    I am a reluctant entertainer, but working on overcoming that! The wonderful helps on the RE page have helped me alot.
    I'd LOVE a copy of Sandy's book!

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    Ashley :

    I am becoming less reluctant now that I'm feeling more confident in the kitchen. Working off themes helps me plan fun menus for entertaining, but I'd love to read this book and learn some new ideas!

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    Erika :

    Well, when it comes to entertaining I really can be hit or miss. It seems like having kids I need to always think about "child friendly" items to serve & some back up ideas for "just in case" moments. However, now that I think of it, I really didn't entertain much before kids either. My husbands family lives out of town, so whenever they are over it's for several days so I'm getting more used to the idea of being able to "let some things go." It's never quite perfect enough in my mind, however I doubt they even notice what is missing. I LOVE getting together with friends, but really should think about that more often especially now that the boys are getting older. I agree with a previous comment too about a little fun beverage to take the edge off. 😉

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    Friberg Clan :

    I wanna meet the person who can entertain w/o stress…I feel like that is nearly impossible! I love to entertain but there is always a feeling of anxiety that goes along with it. I think I strive on anxiety…the more chaos for this old lady the better. Can't wait to page thru a copy of this fabulous looking book.

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    Kim :

    I have this book and I love it! Whoever wins it, will really enjoy it! Sandy is such a blessing!! BTW – We live in the same West Michigan community! I'm really enjoying your blog. Think I will be making your chocolate chip cookies! You have lots of great recipes!

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    Friberg Clan :

    OK…FB the giveaway! Here's to winning.

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    Lori Fox :

    I love to entertain. Not sure where it came from, I guess God gave me the gift of hospitality. I don't really stress, but I like to make it nice so I would love more ideas from a pro who makes it look easy.

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    Tree :

    I love entertaining at home-I just wish my apartment were bigger to hold more people! I definitely stress out over what we're serving/how clean is my place/etc., but I'm so excited to have people over that I think the anxiety just turns into elbow grease to get things done! 🙂

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    Pinky :

    I love to entertain. I do drive myself a little crazy preparing, trying to make EVERYTHING perfect! We are hosting a party this Sat. night and I cleaned today like some kind of deranged maniac:):) I make lists and try to follow them.I can't function without LISTS!!!! I would love to win the book! I follow her blog too. XO, Pinky

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    ReneaK :

    I am a very reluctant entertainer. I stress over the details and end up being too tired to really enjoy my guest.

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    Sarah Sharee :

    I am a reluctant entertainer…can't remember the last time we had anyone over. I also just realized that I am a lazy perfectionist, which feeds into it all. I would love to win this book as I am really wanting to read it. I am in a self discovery phase of life right now and am focusing on making many changes and this being one of them.
    Sarah Hardy

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    Ledys :

    I am a reluctant entertainer. I dream of having people over, of serving them a wonderful meal that they will love, of enjoying a lovely evening, but for some reason everything always stays in the planning stages: theres's always an excuse to postpone things. I'd love to win Sandy's book!

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    OhMyGoodNest :

    I'd love to read this book! I'm a well-seasoned entertainer…someone who's had company over at LEAST once a week for YEARS. The "habit" is absolutely in-grained in our lives. Dirty house, leftovers, what-everr…we invite 'em in. Growing up, my parents were just full of hospitality too. I'm always on the look out for tips and recipes to add to the repertoire.

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    Heather Nesbit :

    I love to entertain!!!! However, I do stress out about the food, what if they don't like it or I make something they don't eat….I guess it's a good idea to ask these questions before you have them over.

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    Heather Nesbit :

    Just FB it:)

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    Heather Nesbit :

    Just tweeted it too!

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    Karin Nelson :

    My Mom taught me all about entertaining. Being a pastor's wife, she cooked for all our visiting missionaries and evangelists over the years, in addition to church friends and relatives. She made it seem so natural. I love to host and cook for people, but I must admit, I don't do it as much as I used to, now that I've gotten older and lazier. Also, I put barriers in my way, thinking I've always got to impress the socks off people. I'd love to learn some new tips for easy entertaining.

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    Tanya Ree :

    I am the reluctant entertainer…it freaks me out! LOL I was just married in August and having the thought of Thanksgiving or Christmas Dinner at my house makes me cringe, or even having friends over for that fact!! It's not that I don't want to, but I'm scared…lol. Our friends who have been married for a couple years, invite us for dinner all of the time but as of right now, I feel unprepared of just "throwing it together." I don't really know how to cook yet. (I'm learning and I said in my vows I would promise to learn) I wish I would have payed more attention to my amazing mom!

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    Karin Nelson :

    I shared your post on my facebook! :o)

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    mtsteffes :

    I am a reluctant entertainer! Don't get me wrong, I do love to entertain, but I ALWAYS stress so much! My Mother didn't entertain that much, but when she did, it was a hugh blowout…Hawiian luau (with a pig roast, tiki tourches, tents the whole nine yards), holloween costume party, big Christmas parties with Santa…etc. Maybe the book will calm me down enough to have you guys over for some chicken floutas =-) Tracy

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    Andrea Rocafort :

    I'm not much of an entertainer and I believe I could use this book. Maybe it will help me to overcome! I'm shy, and sometimes not confident in my ability to entertain. I once had a small group and that didn't last… another time one of my brother in-laws said I was the worst host ever…. so needless to say I usually don't invite anyone over anymore. Plus I'm not much of a cook, My husband is amazing cook, so sometimes I don't even want to try. Because I'm sure I'm compared to him and his amazing talent!!! But it is time I work on stepping out of my shell 🙂
    Also I posted this on FB!

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    Melissa :

    Shared on FB. I am a reluctant entertainer because I have such a small home right now…but moved from a large home and did not get rid of enough stuff…clutter everywhere.

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    Abby :

    Hi. My name is Abby. I am…(gulp) a reluctant entertainer.

    Up to this point in time I have truly believed that this condition was entirely hereditary with no hope of improvement. It's a trait that has been passed down on my mother's side of the family throughout the ages. In fact, this holiday season as every holiday season, my mother's side of the family will be spending Thanksgiving and Christmas in a rented hall sitting on cold folding chairs on a concrete floor wishing someone had come a little earlier to turn on the heat. Not long after eating everyone gathers their dishes and heads for home. Why? Because the entire family, myself included, is made up of reluctant entertainers afraid to open up their homes to their own family.

    I would love to get my hands on a copy of Sandy's book because as a 30-ish SAHM with two little boys under the age of three and another baby on the way, I cannot bear the thought of passing on this disorder to my own dear children. When they grow up I desperately want them to come home to their father and I and feel welcome, even comfortable, anytime of the year including holidays. I need help to break this vicious cycle.

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    Becky :

    I love to entertain but stress over keeping the house clean. Also is hard to coordinate everyone's schedules! Would love to win!

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    Nothin But NORMAN :

    Oh my, entertain…yes ma'am that is what I do best however, I do tend to stress out right before the event. I am married to a man who thinks it is okay to remodel the kitchen and remove the kitchen sink the night before our daughters high school open house…You got it, no SINK, no counter top, no water… what did I do? Kept a continuous stream back and forth to my wonderful neighbor across the street to do my cooking…another event, 4th of July, invited 100+ people to the house to enjoy a cookout, swim in the lake and fireworks, well you guessed it another remodel, this time he brought in three dump truck loads of beach sand because he thought we needed more sand for the kids to play in. Sons wedding rehearsal dinner Hawaiian Luau , house project was to paint the trim on the windows and touch up the cedar siding on the house just hours before the dinner. Oh, I forgot another party where he decides to tear out the landscape in the front and replace all the plants…I've learned that if I want a project done at the house all I have to do is host a party….stress? Not because of the duties of being a Hostess, but because of being married to a man who LOVES to do projects right up to the minute of the party.

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    sweet luci's :

    I'm a reluctant entertainer due to the size of my house and the fact that my kitchen needs to be updated BAD, but I do love it.

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    Cheryl :

    I am definitely a reluctant entertainer. My perfectionism gets in my way. I have an overwhelming need for everything to be perfect and always end up disappointing myself, and wonder if my guest are too.

    Needless to say that I don't entertain that often, but I have begun to make baby steps at doing it when I finally allow myself.